Things your wife does that drives you bonkers

[Baron Winnebago]

Yikes… one thing I learned to do with my wife was to separate the expected responsibilities with things, especially major things like that. We went through a pre-marital course that talked about dividing the responsibilities and what was expected of each other. My list is so much longer than hers it isn’t funny, and I make sure to emphasize the things I have done and the things she hasn’t. Not to rub it I her face, but only to be confident that I can tell her to shut the fuck up and not feel bad about it.

It's pretty mild. I'm mostly just sick of hearing about how many boxes she's packed.

 

[BBTown Bomber]

I’ve got one who can go from “Alpha-female” to “victim” in less than two minutes. Hate the passive-aggressive bullshit that goes with this flip-flop.

Cue the old Danny Glover line about “I’m too old for this shit”………😎

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[Jim14510]

Yikes… one thing I learned to do with my wife was to separate the expected responsibilities with things, especially major things like that. We went through a pre-marital course that talked about dividing the responsibilities and what was expected of each other. My list is so much longer than hers it isn’t funny, and I make sure to emphasize the things I have done and the things she hasn’t. Not to rub it I her face, but only to be confident that I can tell her to shut the fuck up and not feel bad about it.

Have you even had your 1 year anniversary?

 

[dsbigred1]

Have you even had your 1 year anniversary?

Just about, but been together 7 years.

 

[Baron Winnebago]

Just about, but been together 7 years.

Calm down speed racer

 

[Pipe Line]

I’ve got one who can go from “Alpha-female” to “victim” in less than two minutes. Hate the passive-aggressive bullshit that goes with this flip-flop.

Cue the old Danny Glover line about “I’m too old for this shit”………😎

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I've gotten the passive aggressive "you're just like your father" a few times. She is right on that so I don't have much to say back

 

[HCFord1]

I've gotten the passive aggressive "you're just like your father" a few times. She is right on that so I don't have much to say back

I told my wife recently that I won't tolerate her bringing up my family during fights unless it's a fight about family. I think she realized that her family is way more fucked up than mine and there's plenty that I could throw back in her face, so she actually responded well to it.

 

[Pipe Line]

I told my wife recently that I won't tolerate her bringing up my family during fights unless it's a fight about family. I think she realized that her family is way more fucked up than mine and there's plenty that I could throw back in her face, so she actually responded well to it.

My wife is the type of person that loves to get the last "gotcha" in the argument. I really just avoid arguments anymore because it pisses me off when she does it. She has this laugh that she does on the "gotcha" that makes me want to pull a hole in the wall, cause she thinks it's awesome what she just said. So I just stop talking and walk away if it's getting that direction.

 

[God is a Husker]

Wife is hand washing the baby bottles in the kitchen sink with the faucet as hot as it can go.

At the same time Wife is running the Dishwasher on "Sanitize" mode, which uses exclusively hot water.

At the same time Wife is doing a load of laundry (towels) and has it on "Hot".


Wife gets done with the bottles and immediately goes upstairs to shower.... yells down at me "WATER ISN'T VERY WARM OUR HOT WATER HEATER SUCKS!"




Our (only 3 years old) water heater is fighting like a god damn warrior to keep up with this psycho Wife of mine.

 

[Kaladin]

is this someone on this forum

 

[slattimer]

We got rid of our SUV, wife wanted a van....🙁👎💩. We got an offer on our vehicle we were pleased with. Put the title in the vehicle the previous evening in preparation for the next day. Wife cleans out said vehicle a little later. I think nothing of it...drive all over the next day looking at vans, find one we like, purchase and head to sell the SUV. Everything checks out, look in the center console for the title...nothing. Um, wife, where's the title..."Oh, I just took everything out of the vehicle last night..."😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡. You gotta be shitting me.

 

[tman87]

The amount of things my wife does that irk me are large. Plus she is passive-aggressive and a non-communicator. She had a fairly unbalanced, maybe even abusive, upbringing, so has some inherent baggage from that in how she deals with things.

I was gone back to NE (lived in MT the last 20 years) to frame a couple houses with my brother for my parents (they are both 76 but dad is a contractor who develops subdivisions in Norfolk and builds out the houses or townhomes on the lots to sell). Was back in NE several weeks, busted my ass framing these two houses, and it's a 1000 mile trip to and from MT to the Norfolk area, which I do in about 13 hrs of driving. Very tiring few weeks for me.

Anyway, while I am gone I get the "I miss you so much. I can't even sleep without you next to me." Yadda Yadda. Which was probably true, she is a cuddler and lays all over me in bed, so she probably felt cold and lonely while I was gone. I get back about 8 pm on a Sunday night from NE expecting her to be excited to see me. Instead she was already in bed, and avoided me for the next 4 days. I can ask her what the issue is, but never get an answer. I finally asked her and the answer was: "A man should be able figure it out.". WTF woman.

I come to find out that one of the pictures I had sent her (she requested pics all the time while I was gone), I was not wearing my wedding ring. I take the ring off while I am working so as not to lose a finger (rings get caught on stuff while building), but honestly didn't wear it much while I was staying with my parents while framing these houses. She saw the picture of me with no ring and her fragile phsyche crumbled. But fuckin hell woman, just TELL me if you have an issue with something.

That is just one small example. I was in the doghouse for a couple weeks after getting back from Nebraska over this piddly shit. The fact that she does not communicate and I am somehow supposed to figure things out by ESP or something is beyond stupid. Too afraid to talk or communicate, but uses passive-aggressive tactics instead. 47 yrs old and she acts like a child often.

There are some great things about her (her being hot is one of the biggies), but I've dealt with this shit for almost the entire time I've been with her. It is never really gonna change. My mom is nothing like this.... and most of us develop our expectations for what we want in a life partner from how our mothers are IMHO. My mom is probably the nicest, most well balanced, most patient yet assertive woman you could find. A grade school teacher for 30 years, literally every kid who she taught loves her, says she is the best teacher they ever had. She is just a good woman. My dad is extremely lucky to have her (he's awesome too FWIW), and my brother and I extremely lucky to have her as our mother. So my expectations are a completely solid, smart, assertive yet patient, woman to have as a life partner. No BS from my mom. Of course she's from a different generation and that generation I feel there is less bullshit in general from women and people in general, but I think this is just how she would have been no matter when she had grown up.

 

[Pipe Line]

The amount of things my wife does that irk me are large. Plus she is passive-aggressive and a non-communicator. She had a fairly unbalanced, maybe even abusive, upbringing, so has some inherent baggage from that in how she deals with things.

I was gone back to NE (lived in MT the last 20 years) to frame a couple houses with my brother for my parents (they are both 76 but dad is a contractor who develops subdivisions in Norfolk and builds out the houses or townhomes on the lots to sell). Was back in NE several weeks, busted my ass framing these two houses, and it's a 1000 mile trip to and from MT to the Norfolk area, which I do in about 13 hrs of driving. Very tiring few weeks for me.

Anyway, while I am gone I get the "I miss you so much. I can't even sleep without you next to me." Yadda Yadda. Which was probably true, she is a cuddler and lays all over me in bed, so she probably felt cold and lonely while I was gone. I get back about 8 pm on a Sunday night from NE expecting her to be excited to see me. Instead she was already in bed, and avoided me for the next 4 days. I can ask her what the issue is, but never get an answer. I finally asked her and the answer was: "A man should be able figure it out.". WTF woman.

I come to find out that one of the pictures I had sent her (she requested pics all the time while I was gone), I was not wearing my wedding ring. I take the ring off while I am working so as not to lose a finger (rings get caught on stuff while building), but honestly didn't wear it much while I was staying with my parents while framing these houses. She saw the picture of me with no ring and her fragile phsyche crumbled. But fuckin hell woman, just TELL me if you have an issue with something.

That is just one small example. I was in the doghouse for a couple weeks after getting back from Nebraska over this piddly shit. The fact that she does not communicate and I am somehow supposed to figure things out by ESP or something is beyond stupid. Too afraid to talk or communicate, but uses passive-aggressive tactics instead. 47 yrs old and she acts like a child often.

There are some great things about her (her being hot is one of the biggies), but I've dealt with this shit for almost the entire time I've been with her. It is never really gonna change. My mom is nothing like this.... and most of us develop our expectations for what we want in a life partner from how our mothers are IMHO. My mom is probably the nicest, most well balanced, most patient yet assertive woman you could find. A grade school teacher for 30 years, literally every kid who she taught loves her, says she is the best teacher they ever had. She is just a good woman. My dad is extremely lucky to have her (he's awesome too FWIW), and my brother and I extremely lucky to have her as our mother. So my expectations are a completely solid, smart, assertive yet patient, woman to have as a life partner. No BS from my mom. Of course she's from a different generation and that generation I feel there is less bullshit in general from women and people in general, but I think this is just how she would have been no matter when she had grown up.

Not to dive too deep into my own mommy issues but if this was the case for me then I would have been FUCKED lol my wife is the complete opposite of my mom and for the for sure better. Let's just say my mom is trying to be very much involved in my daughter's life because she missed a bunch of mine growing up.

 

[Pipe Line]

A little context before my story. I start work at 6 AM every morning and off at 4. My wife gets our daughter ready to go for the day and grandma is day care so she picks up my daughter before my wife goes to to work at her school. So, our daughter is her job in the morning and my job in the evening until bed time. We all eat dinner together and play for a little bit before bed time. My wife has A LOT of stress at work/school so she likes to unwind for a while at night before everyone heads to bed.


So, last night. I rarely ask for help from my wife in the evening time because I respect her time to herself to unwind from the day. Last night, I simply ran out of things to keep my daughter entertained on a chilly evening and she turns 1 in a few days so she wants to go everywhere through the house. So I take her upstairs and just say hey, I ran out of things to keep her entertained, let's all play with her toys together. Keep in mind, almost bed time, and I don't ever ask for help unless I legitimately need it. Basically says no because she wants her alone time because it was a tough day at work. I got pissed, picked up her toys, and went to another room and continued playing for the last half hour or so before bed time. Again, I DO NOT EVER ASK FOR HELP. She got mad at me because I got mad at her because I was trying to entertain our daughter and keep her busy.


I only type this out because it drove me nuts that for the first time since she's been born, I asked for help in keeping her entertained, got turned down, got aggravated by it because I take shit for not being there to help when I'm out doing man work, and I'm the one that got in trouble.

 

[Jim14510]

She got mad at me because I got mad at her

This is a baffling but very effective strategy used by women.

 

[Jim14510]

Wife is hand washing the baby bottles in the kitchen sink with the faucet as hot as it can go.

At the same time Wife is running the Dishwasher on "Sanitize" mode, which uses exclusively hot water.

At the same time Wife is doing a load of laundry (towels) and has it on "Hot".


Wife gets done with the bottles and immediately goes upstairs to shower.... yells down at me "WATER ISN'T VERY WARM OUR HOT WATER HEATER SUCKS!"




Our (only 3 years old) water heater is fighting like a god damn warrior to keep up with this psycho Wife of mine.

Sounds like you need one of those tankless water heaters. $$$

 

[Pipe Line]

This is a baffling but very effective strategy used by women.

Because I know how she operates, I ended up apologizing later just to move on from the situation. Clearly it worked.

 

[cwessel76]

This is a baffling but very effective strategy used by women.

My wife is a SME on this.

 

[Jim14510]

Because I know how she operates, I ended up apologizing later just to move on from the situation. Clearly it worked.

I'm too stubborn for that. Ends up going on for days.

 

[Pipe Line]

I'm too stubborn for that. Ends up going on for days.

Most of the time we give each other the silent treatment for atleast the majority of a day, if it's legit enough but this happened at night time and I didn't care after about an hour.