Anyone Else’s Wife a Stay At Home Mom?

[Frankie51]

What’s your experience with it? Pros? Cons?

TIA

 

[LNKinLNK]

Yes, we love it. Of course, it means that we do not live in as nice of a house, have as fancy of vacations, etc., we would if we had two incomes. But having a well-managed home and having the ability to raise our own children from 8-5 M-F is worth it.

 

[Frankie51]

Yes, we love it. Of course, it means that we do not live in as nice of a house, have as fancy of vacations, etc., we would if we had two incomes. But having a well-managed home and having the ability to raise our own children from 8-5 M-F is worth it.

Wife stays at home and agree with what you said but I feel guilty if I leave the house for anything outside of working hours since she’s home all day during the week. Feel like going to the gym is over.

 

[cwessel76]

We both work and here in Northern Virginia it’s pretty much a requirement given how expensive it is here.

@BorWhiskey can back me up on this one.

 

[Frankie51]

We both work and here in Northern Virginia it’s pretty much a requirement given how expensive it is here.

@BorWhiskey can back me up on this one.

No doubt. My wife’s salary didn’t justify her continuing to work. Money is very tight at the moment. Wish egg prices would come down 🙁

 

[dsbigred1]

No, OP. Despite her annoying pleadings with me that it would be best for everyone, I demanded that she keep her job and get over it. I really don’t think that decision has had much negative impact on her or the dogs..

 

[GAHusker]

Wife stays at home and agree with what you said but I feel guilty if I leave the house for anything outside of working hours since she’s home all day during the week. Feel like going to the gym is over.

We tried this for a bit because of COVID (daycare was closed a lot) and moving (needed time to find a new daycare). In our experience, it didn’t go well and my wife is back at work. She really didn’t like it and missed the social interaction in a job. She also would immediately demand that I take over with the kids after I got off work, and I similarly felt the pressure to take any time for myself. There are some benefits, but I think my kids really get a lot out of going to school and interacting with others and following a set curriculum etc.

 

[herbsinator]

No, but we have a nanny so the baby is home all day anyway. Wife is also 100% remote so she can still be around the kiddo during the day.

 

[Baron Winnebago]

Really varies person to person. My wife has stayed home for stretches and worked in others. Some people are great stay at home parents and others really aren't.

 

[iruletheskool]

Yes, we love it. Of course, it means that we do not live in as nice of a house, have as fancy of vacations, etc., we would if we had two incomes. But having a well-managed home and having the ability to raise our own children from 8-5 M-F is worth it.

This

 

[huskerj12]

Lots of pros and cons, just be prepared to up your game to keep the share of parenting even close to 50/50. My wife puts in a ton of work all day long and understandably expects me to pick up the slack as soon as I get home, and then some.

 

[KidsSeeGhosts]

DINK life

 

[BBTown Bomber]

We tried this for a bit because of COVID (daycare was closed a lot) and moving (needed time to find a new daycare). In our experience, it didn’t go well and my wife is back at work. She really didn’t like it and missed the social interaction in a job. She also would immediately demand that I take over with the kids after I got off work, and I similarly felt the pressure to take any time for myself. There are some benefits, but I think my kids really get a lot out of going to school and interacting with others and following a set curriculum etc.

Solid life skills..........two paychecks has worked out just fine for us. For many reasons.


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[Hedley Lamarr]

just have her start an OF or cash in some feet pics. It's all the rage these days and if it works out you both might be able to stay home full time

 

[KidsSeeGhosts]

just have her start an OF or cash in some feet pics. It's all the rage these days and if it works out you both might be able to stay home full time

There was a dude who tried to buy my wife's wedding dress for $20K and wanted to buy sweaty yoga pants for hundreds per pair. Was definitely tempting.

 

[Hedley Lamarr]

There was a dude who tried to buy my wife's wedding dress for $20K and wanted to buy sweaty yoga pants for hundreds per pair. Was definitely tempting.

exactly, I am sure he would of bought a pic of your butthole if you offered too.

 

[HuskerGarrett]

No, it wouldn’t be possible for us here in Denver, the cost of living is too high

 

[Lionsfan93]

My wife stays at home. Like LNK said, it certainly comes with some sacrifices. But overall, it has worked well for us. We recently started homeschooling my oldest (6), so my wife has been spearheading that.

My wife and I have pretty open communication - if she feels overworked, she will talk to me. Likewise, if I need time to decompress after a long day, I let her know.

At the end of the day, I remind her that she has her childhood "dream job" and I'm not playing in the NFL, so she has no right to complain. 😁 😁 😁

 

[BluesBucksNHuskers]

I couldn’t deal with living off 1 income now - I’ve grown too accustomed to nice things and my wife makes significantly more than I do.

 

[herbsinator]

I couldn’t deal with living off 1 income now - I’ve grown too accustomed to nice things and my wife makes significantly more than I do.

Sounds like maybe you should be the one staying home!