Grief

[Link-]

Last night, my family lost our dad to Lewy Body Dementia. I’ve been his primary caretaker for the better part of 6 years, as he lived with me and eventually moved in with my fiancé and I. She’s an angel and I don’t deserve her.

I wouldn’t wish dementia on my worst enemy, let alone Dean, a Cockeye or Colorado fan, or the random shitpost insiders on X. It’s fucking brutal. Thankfully, he went peacefully in his sleep.

After losing my mom 10 years ago, I knew this day was coming but damn it still hurts immensely.

I just wanted to take a second and tell yall that we have an awesome community here and when mom passed, many of you were incredibly kind in your support through that (HOL days, but you know who you are).

Don’t take life for granted and don’t take your relationships for granted. Pick up the phone and make the call you’ve been meaning to make. Life is way too short.

I’m going to miss my old man. I can’t wait to have kids to pass down the love of life and Husker football that he showed me.

Much love to you guys.

 

[HuskerGarrett]

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family @Link- and rest in peace to your father.

Life is way too short and I’m sorry your dad had to suffer through that illness at the end. Hopefully you can find some comfort in knowing that he’s no longer suffering 🙏

Was your dad a big Skers fan as well? Are you all from Nebraska?

 

[Link-]

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family @Link- and rest in peace to your father.

Life is way too short and I’m sorry your dad had to suffer through that illness at the end. Hopefully you can find some comfort in knowing that he’s no longer suffering 🙏

Was your dad a big Skers fan as well? Are you all from Nebraska?

I appreciate it, Garrett. He was a huge fan starting in the 70s and on, but had never been to a game until the Buffalo game a few years ago because he always worked. Thank fuck we won that game lol. He’s from Missouri and actually went to Mizzou back in the 60s, but he always liked the Huskers. Super thankful he influenced that fandom and encouraged me to go to UNL instead of being a fuggin Tiger like my sister.

 

[Goskers07]

Sorry for your loss man. Watching your loved one fade away into dementia is one of the most painful experiences anyone faces.

You hit the nail on the head, don't ever take those relationships for granted. Have peace in knowing your pops is whole again and cherish every one of those memories.

 

[LoudHogRider]

Truly sorry for your loss. Take comfort in the knowledge that he's at peace and reunited with those who have gone before him in heaven. And props to you and your fiance for taking care of him when he needed you most. Peace be with you.

 

[dom91932]

Last night, my family lost our dad to Lewy Body Dementia. I’ve been his primary caretaker for the better part of 6 years, as he lived with me and eventually moved in with my fiancé and I. She’s an angel and I don’t deserve her.

I wouldn’t wish dementia on my worst enemy, let alone Dean, a Cockeye or Colorado fan, or the random shitpost insiders on X. It’s fucking brutal. Thankfully, he went peacefully in his sleep.

After losing my mom 10 years ago, I knew this day was coming but damn it still hurts immensely.

I just wanted to take a second and tell yall that we have an awesome community here and when mom passed, many of you were incredibly kind in your support through that (HOL days, but you know who you are).

Don’t take life for granted and don’t take your relationships for granted. Pick up the phone and make the call you’ve been meaning to make. Life is way too short.

I’m going to miss my old man. I can’t wait to have kids to pass down the love of life and Husker football that he showed me.

Much love to you guys.

So sorry for your loss and may God bless you and your fiancé for taking care of him. My mom died from this four years ago and it was horrible.

And as far as picking up the phone-do it now! Or you'll always regret it.

 

[Boondock_St_Sker]

Very sorry to hear this. Being his caregiver for those years was a blessing for him and must have been extremely difficult for you and your fiancé. Thank you for being able to take care of him. Too many families can’t or are not willing to be caregivers in our parents later years. My dad past a couple years ago in his home with his girlfriend taking care of him. Luckily I was able to spend a day with him prior to his passing.

I appreciate you sharing this with us. May you and your family be at peace. Thoughts and prayers.

 

[HCFord1]

One of my friends from growing up just lost her dad to Lewy Body Dimentia this past year. Really difficult times and I’m sure you experienced a lot over the past six years. The good is that your dad’s mind is at peace now, free from the horrible disease. Sorry for your loss and thinking of you and your family.

 

[bbenson67]

So sorry for you and your family's loss. I lost my mom to Alzheimer's 20 some years ago. Watching the decline is so frustrating and heartbreaking. If it's any solace, he obviously raised a great son. Prayers to you.

 

[cwessel76]

Last night, my family lost our dad to Lewy Body Dementia. I’ve been his primary caretaker for the better part of 6 years, as he lived with me and eventually moved in with my fiancé and I. She’s an angel and I don’t deserve her.

I wouldn’t wish dementia on my worst enemy, let alone Dean, a Cockeye or Colorado fan, or the random shitpost insiders on X. It’s fucking brutal. Thankfully, he went peacefully in his sleep.

After losing my mom 10 years ago, I knew this day was coming but damn it still hurts immensely.

I just wanted to take a second and tell yall that we have an awesome community here and when mom passed, many of you were incredibly kind in your support through that (HOL days, but you know who you are).

Don’t take life for granted and don’t take your relationships for granted. Pick up the phone and make the call you’ve been meaning to make. Life is way too short.

I’m going to miss my old man. I can’t wait to have kids to pass down the love of life and Husker football that he showed me.

Much love to you guys.

I’m so sorry for your loss. You are a great son and I hope you and your family find peace and remember the good times with your dad.

 

[Sous Chef]

Dementia is rough on everyone. Like OP said wouldn't wish it on anyone. It's how my grandmother on my dad's side went. Visiting was so painful for all of us as for the last six months of her life she had no idea who any of us were. I know when my time comes she will be one of the ones waiting to greet me. The love never dies.

 

[NEHusker54]

Sorry to hear that man. My dad passed 3 years ago tomorrow. Not looking forward to tomorrow but going to stay busy at work and hold my boys (2&4) extra tight tomorrow. Losing a parent really puts all this stupid husker shit in perspective.

 

[tman87]

Very sorry for your loss, Link. Prayers given for you Husker brother.

 

[HuskeRuss]

Last night, my family lost our dad to Lewy Body Dementia. I’ve been his primary caretaker for the better part of 6 years, as he lived with me and eventually moved in with my fiancé and I. She’s an angel and I don’t deserve her.

I wouldn’t wish dementia on my worst enemy, let alone Dean, a Cockeye or Colorado fan, or the random shitpost insiders on X. It’s fucking brutal. Thankfully, he went peacefully in his sleep.

After losing my mom 10 years ago, I knew this day was coming but damn it still hurts immensely.

I just wanted to take a second and tell yall that we have an awesome community here and when mom passed, many of you were incredibly kind in your support through that (HOL days, but you know who you are).

Don’t take life for granted and don’t take your relationships for granted. Pick up the phone and make the call you’ve been meaning to make. Life is way too short.

I’m going to miss my old man. I can’t wait to have kids to pass down the love of life and Husker football that he showed me.

Much love to you guys.

Prayers!!!

 

[PLA]

Sorry for your loss bro! Atta boy for stepping up and taking care of him! Peace!

 

[Alcaus]

Sorry for your loss brother, that sounds incredibly difficult.

I’m glad you have a good woman to help you through this tough time.

Prayers to you and your family.

 

[betsch]

My dad is in the early stages now. It sucks because he's a doctor and has always been very smart etc., but now it's getting harder and harder to have meaningful conversations with him. Prayers.

 

[Jim14510]

My dad is in the early stages now. It sucks because he's a doctor and has always been very smart etc., but now it's getting harder and harder to have meaningful conversations with him. Prayers.

My dad too. His is still early. You wouldn't notice if you didn't know him well. Knowing what's coming is the hard part.

 

[2010sarenevercomingback]

Just in case this can help anyone, there are known cases of cobalt poisoning bringing on dementia symptoms. This primarily happened from metal-on-metal joint replacements with cobalt/chromium exteriors rubbing together and wearing off some of those metals via friction.

As best I can tell, most of these types of joints were phased out 10+ years ago (certain models were recalled), but if you're close to someone with dementia symptoms, I would strongly suggest checking whether they have an artificial joint that could be doing this. Removing it/replacing with a more modern ceramic joint has actually reversed the symptoms in some.

Certainly won't be a cure-all for dementia situations, but I wanted to mention it in case it could help anyone.

 

[Samkellers_69]

Sorry for your loss fellow tPB-er and everyone else in this thread that has had to deal with a parent with dementia. People who have never dealt with it seriously do not know. It's literally hell.

it's never easy but lean on faith if that's your thing/family and friends. Others have gone through this and you're not alone. I am actually getting watery eyes typing this.

Similarly my mother was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer's at only 55 years old and just got worse from there. This is going to sounds terrible but luckily she was diagnosed with breast cancer and that is what ultimately took her life. I always prayed/hoped for her to not have to have terribly long battle with Alzheimer's/dementia and that's how it was answered. It's weird but still don't think I have totally mourned her passing.

It always sucked going to see her at her memory care but the best is when you visit them and they randomly do or say something that lets you know their true self is in there somewhere.


I was only 23ish when this happened and when she passed I was not even 28. I am now 31. I usually think about all the things she is missing out on. My engagement, wedding, etc. But she was there for all my brothers and sister biggest life achievements and able to see the first home I purchased and I think that was pretty cool.